KW Exercise 6.2

I was greeted at the bookstore, the chic behind the counter asked how I was doing and I hesitated. I felt pressured to say that I was fine, like I typically do. However, because of this social experiment I decided to say what was really on my mind. I told her my day was terrible, that I had just gotten into a terrible argument with my mother because she drinks too much. Her face literally read WTF?! Confusion is what I saw in her face. Many of those who I either approached and started a conversation and was open about how my day truly was going, seemed in shock and confused, probably thought I was crazy too. One asked why I was telling them personal information; he said, “I don’t even know you”.  I just thought believe me bro, this is awkward for me to. There was a point when I was talking to a girl and she actually listened and comforted me and opened up to me, I was in shock. I felt relieved that someone could relate to me but the fact that we were complete strangers made that moment special. After doing this experiment I have learned that, as a society, we never truly express how we really feel, especially while being in public with strangers. I think it has become this way out of being fearful. Our society is so worried about what others will think of us; we do not ever show whom we really are or how we really feel. Most of us do this even with members of our own family and close friends. I do not know if we really even have an idea of who we really are. From the time that we are born, we learned to put on these different acts so much that it is hard for many people to know their individual self.

H- The Presentation of the Self in Everyday Life (pg 135-146)

Goffman explains how face-to-face interactions have a significance in socialization. He sets the idea that socialization is much like a theatrical performance. We have a variety of roles, the world is our stage and the audience is those around us. Since we constantly feel like we are being watched, there is a sense of having to impress. We try to impress or be impressed because we are trying not to embarrass ourselves. The way we act is influenced by what we are wearing who our audience is where we are and what is expected of us.

H- Extreme Isolation (pg 151-158)

I remember that in class we talked about what made us human. The professor talked about having the biological aspects of being human but what about acting human. 

This is very true, take the movie Tarzan for example (even though it's fiction) he grew up interacting with the gorillas. When he first saw Jane he was confused, did not know what to think or how to interact with her. Tarzan was adopted into his society even though he still didn't belong through the biological aspect. He belonged because he took up their (gorilla) customs. Tarzan later learned how to be human. Learning how to walk properly and dress etc. Very much like Anna and Isabelle he was isolated from human interaction and socialization. 

We are said to be social creatures therefore, socialization is vital for our development and success. I really felt for Anna. She was so young, it was unfortunate that she died so young, I wonder what the reason for her death was. The theory was that she hadn't developed quite as fast in comparison to Isabelle but it was later revealed that her mother had some type of learning disability which could have been congenital.

There was something that stated that she was still within the age of "plasticity", which I imagine made it easier for her to learn all though not as they wished. In Isabelle's case she excelled and was able to grasp onto language forming sentences and asking complex question. I believe she was able to do this within a 9 month period of first learning to speak.  

Overall my take away is that human socialization is key to development. This is reinforced in my Human Development class because in the early stages of acquiring language. The specific period that is important begins since birth. I realize how at the beginning of the semester we did the Ven-Diagrams showing how Sociology, Psychology, economics and history play major roles in society. 

KW Exercise 5.2

It is quite safe to say that everyone has different versions of himself or herself. People are constantly adapting to different environments and other people. Whether it’s acting professional with your boss or acting casual with your friends, people feel the need to act in a way that is explained through “the looking glass” and “the generalized other”. Sociologist Charles Horton Cooley explains that the concept of the looking-glass self is that “we perceive ourselves based on how we think others see us”.
When I work in a group I tend to stay on top of the work and be punctual and on schedule. However, when it's only myself I procrastinate because it's my grade I am earning. I am not jeopardizing anyone else. In a group I try to set myself out there so that the groups trusts me and sees that I am worthy, because if there is mistrust and doubt that one of us won't pull through I would kick them out of the group. That is the main reason I look for acceptance. My behavior of assumptions is what Cooley’s looking glass self demonstrates and that is that our “actions and behaviors are reactions to our interpretations of the people, objects, and situations we encounter". I assume that if there is no trust I will be kicked out the group because I would do that. I also feel that I have to deliver 100% because it is my grade but it is all of our grade and I don't want to screw someone over, so I wouldn't want them to ruin it either.

Another Sociologist, George Herbert Mead, explains the concept of “The Generalized Other” as how develop our individual personalities through social experiences. For example, I like to wear makeup on days where I am out with my friends. When I am wearing makeup, I feel more confident and know that I am the best-looking version of myself. However, when I’m not wearing makeup, I constantly think that people are looking at me because I’m ugly. I don’t have the smoothest or clearest skin and when people stare at me, I think they are thinking how unattractive I am because of my acne. My personality is not much different when I’m wearing and not wearing makeup. With a full face of makeup on, I’m a bit more confident and outgoing. However, with no makeup on, I’m a lot more "real" because I don't wear make up daily therefore, tend to be to myself. I sometimes feel more self-conscious when socializing with others and not wearing makeup because, I just assume they don’t want to be near me. Writing this essay made me realize how much I just assume people thought of me. However as I grow older, I tend to not care of what others think of me and I now have the freedom to find myself.

OS Chapter 5: Socialization

Theories of Self-Development 5.1

Explain why it’s important to conduct research using both male and female participants. What sociological topics might show gender differences? Provide some examples to illustrate your ideas.

·       We are all different therefore think differently. I think that sex would be a sociological topic that most definitely shows gender differences. An example would be of how many sexual partners one can have before being labeled a slut. Alternatively, how only women and looked down on when they have multiple sexual partners. However somehow it is perfectly fine for men to do so. Salary is also another sociological topic with gender differences, how typically men get paid more than women.

Why Socialization Matters 5.2

Why are twin studies an important way to learn about the relative effects of genetics and socialization on children? What questions about human development do you believe twin studies are best for answering? For what types of questions would twin studies not be as helpful?

·       Twin studies are important because it is a clear way to test weather nature or nurture have a greater effect on who we are. As they stated in the section twins that were separated at birth were studied because they clearly had the same genetic material (DNA). Therefore, the studies may show differences that could have been influenced by their upbringings (nurture).

·       I believe that some of the questions that can be answered about human development with twin studies are:

o   Questions about personality, behavior, attitude and physical traits.

·       I believe that the twin studies wouldn’t be great to answer:

o   Nature vs Nurture because there are different type of twins. Identical and fraternal twins.

Agents of Socialization 5.3

Do you think it is important that parents discuss gender roles with their young children, or is gender a topic better left for later? How do parents consider gender norms when buying their children books, movies, and toys? How do you believe they should consider it?

·       I personally don’t think it is important for parents to discuss gender roles with their kids at a young age. They will start doing this since birth by dressing them in certain clothes and colors. However from sociological point of view I guess parents would want to do this because of the stigma that gender roles have in our society.

·       Parents consider gender norms when making purchases for their children by taking into consideration what is going on in the media. An example to that is; advertisement that is designated to a specific gender. They are also predisposed to a set of expectations as to what the toys, clothes or books should be like depending upon the child’s sex

·       I believe that they should consider buying toys and clothes by choosing what is most beneficial. If not perhaps what the child likes. I think that even though we have a certain way of going through things it is important to realize that we are individuals and we are not the same. Yes we may seem to be the sameor similar but that is only because we have learned to conform and be what society wants us to be.

 

Socialization Across the Life Course 5.4

Consider a person who is joining a sorority or fraternity, attending college or boarding school, or even a child beginning kindergarten. How is the process the student goes through a form of socialization? What new cultural behaviors must the student adapt to?

·       The process that students go through is a form of socialization because they are being introduced to a new group of individuals. They are being re-socialized because they have to leave their old habits and acquire the new ones which are part of the new group. The students must adapt to having an authoritative figure, performing tasks and getting along with peers.

Required Entry: Writing Like Henslin

The Nacirema culture also has women who change their normal appearance to look presentable. These women use a variety of tools and products to reshape their face. They color their face and pat it sometimes seem to hit their face. The tools they use have different shapes and textures they have bristles. Some bristles are rough others are soft. They come in different colors and designs. Women are so devoted to reshaping their face that they do it everyday. Some go to the extent of making some of it permanent. Permanent by using color and blades on their hair on their face. Reshaping of the face is so popular that, women pay big bucks to have this done to them. [Make up, Microblading (eyebrows)]

KW Exercise 4.1

1. The first thing that I would teach my classmate who is new to United States would be manners and how to speak. It's important to know how to address someone. You will want to talk to different people in different ways. Example, you will want to know the slang we use in America but you do not want to call your professor "Homie". You want to know that when someone says. "what's good" you know they mean, what's up or how you're doing. For clothing you can wear anything you would like as long as it’s covering your privates although, for girls it seems to be a trend to make nipples visible through tops, simply going braless. There are trends in America that we tend to follow and for the most part, if you are not dressed in the trend you stand out and look like an odd ball and are made fun of. We mainly try to fit in by wearing what the majority is wearing especially if we want to belong to an individual group not necessarily a gang. I would then tell them of the variety of food and cuisines we have such as; sushi, pizza, burgers, hot dogs, ice cream and Mexican, Italian, Chinese, and Thai cuisine. In addition, how we Americans love fast food chain restaurants, I would tell them of the hot places to go out to, so that they can see where all the people our age tend to eat out. Explain to them how it is socially unacceptable to not love hot dogs, burgers, pizza and sweets in America. As for music I would introduce them to the variety of music we have dating from oldies, to R&B, Hip-Hop, Rap both main stream and underground. I would advise them to go out to music festivals to experience the energy from crowds and the lively night. I would explain to them how all of our music has an underlying message that can be decrypted from the lyrics of said songs. However, really tell them not to worry about what they listen to. Television would be extremely helpful to someone new in the United States because they become exposed to real world news and reality T.V and can have a basic understanding of what we Americans like to watch. I would explain to the real world problems along with worldwide problems being broadcasted through T.V on the news. Then on the other hand, you have reality shows where you can see the life of others and see drama filled lives. I would tell them of places they will like to go to for fun and hanging out to socialize such as popular coffee shops, smoke shops, movies, shopping centers, and places out of town and within the town itself. Speaking of places that they would like to visit I would tell them of places to stay away, cities, and towns to visit such as Fresno and Oakland in our case.
2. 
   One of the norms in our society is to say hello and smile at people. As well as asking how they are doing. In our society if you don't like fast food you aren't normal. Another norm and value is to show respect to elders. We value modesty that can be expressed through clothing but it may seem conflicting depending upon trends. The major norm and value is fitting in. Music is also a norm we tend to listen to more rap and Hip-Hop, in a sense we identify through our music and are influenced by it. We also value diversity.
3. As I look at the list of norms and values of our American society, I realize that it is mostly focused on the norms. What is the “normal” thing to do? What do I do to fit in? It is almost never about the values we have. We listen to the music we hear others listening to or music of our preference but never get influenced by a value we have. We do not dress a certain way to represent our values, most of the time we dress according to what other people are wearing; again, to what the “norm” is. We do, however some values in our society that we are have expected to have. For example, equality, we are expected to be open-minded and be free and equal to one another. We also value change. Change is a major value to have as an American because the United States is so diverse, that you need to get used to change in food, clothes, music, etc. As well as the big changes, that go on in our world like the LGBT community rights. Something we also value a lot is work. We are expected to work hard in school as kids so that when we graduate we can continue working hard for our employers. I believe that our American norms and values vary from person to person but that tells us that we are a diverse society as a whole.
4. I would first get to know the transfer student to have a better understanding of where they are coming from and to try to help them adapt better to the subculture that is found on our campus, Delta. I would show them around the different buildings and get them acquainted with the staff. We also have many clubs here at Delta so I would show them around when they set up all the booths for the clubs and have them talk to someone who is already involved in the club. This way they can hopefully find a club that they like and be able to make friends that share the sane interests as them. I would also show them nearby places to grab a bite at and some good places to meet up to study at.